What it means when you say “Being an Adult”

For some reason, the majority of us think that “being an adult” is something to strive for. Here’s a short list of what it implies:

  • Holding down a steady, well paying job with a desk and boss that will eventually lead to a pension
  • Staying cool under pressure
  • Paying your bills on time… all of ‘em
  • Maintaining a social circle of glamorous/hip/sensitive friends
  • Keeping a clean, fashionable wardrobe
  • Eating three healthy, balanced meals a day that don’t come out of the microwave
  • Having a living space that doesn’t belong to anyone except you/your partner
  • Having a “partner”
  • Lived in a foreign country at some point, preferably while helping orphans. Clean water initiatives are also acceptable.
  • Watching sophisticated films with subtitles or extreme camera angles
  • Traveling, preferably to hip locations in Europe
  • Staying on top of a smart, quirky social media platform (bonus points if you write for something regularly)
  • Understanding political issues well enough to vote in local elections
  • Owning and understanding a smart phone
  • Exercising regularly
  • Continuing education in some form
  • Giving back to the community
  • Cleaning all of the things

None of it seems all that difficult, right?

Now reflect on the fact that you’re going to have to either do/talk about ALL OF THOSE THINGS EVERY DAY to qualify for “adult” status.

So according to your facebook trolling, the world looks something like this:

All of the people above pay their bills on time. They own cars, but prefer to bike. They go to the gym regularly. They’re not interested in going to Five Guys because they’ve got a great Pinterest recipe to prepare with vegetables from their CSA. Oh, and would you like to look at pictures their partner took while attending an Italian blogging conference with their friends from college?

Now, we here at glittersparkleawesomecupcake don’t like to be naysayers. So instead of  focusing on what seems like an impossible dream, we’re going to talk about how to make it happen.

You don’t have to be Superman. As Peter Parker, you’re doing just fine.

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Let’s look back at our list. I’ll bold the items PP manages on a regular basis.

  • Holding down a steady, well paying job with a desk and boss that will eventually lead to a pension (if he makes it to pension age. Webslinging is risky)
  • Staying cool under pressure
  • Paying your bills on time… all of ‘em
  • Maintaining a social circle of glamorous/hip/sensitive friends
  • Keeping a clean, fashionable wardrobe
  • Eating three healthy, balanced meals a day that don’t come out of the microwave
  • Having a living space that doesn’t belong to anyone except you/your partner
  • Having a “partner”
  • Lived in a foreign country at some point, preferably while helping orphans. Clean water initiatives are also acceptable.
  • Watching sophisticated films with subtitles or extreme camera angles
  • Traveling, preferably to hip locations in Europe
  • Staying on top of a smart, quirky social media platform (bonus points if you write for something regularly)
  • Understanding political issues well enough to vote in local elections
  • Owning and understanding a smart phone
  • Exercising regularly
  • Continuing education in some form
  • Giving back to the community
  • Cleaning all of the things

On the adult scale, Petey manages 5/17. But does anyone blame him? No, they’re too busy looking at the pretty pictures he takes and his decidedly unhip and probably grody ensemble as he saves the city over and over again.

If you’re managing 5+, you’re doing just fine Spidey. Keep on trucking.

Unashamedly under 30%ingly yours,

Blush

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Tensing Up

pasttenseThere have been times in my life when I’ve struggled with anxiety. Yes, even we Glittery Sparkly Awesome Delicious people struggle with such things. It’s totes normal, guys.

I had a horrible week. I was laid off, I broke up with my boy toy, I had lost all interest in the newest season of Lost. Even worse, I was about to pay a massive health care bill, I knew I needed to look for jobs, and I wasn’t sure I wanted to live in my apartment any more. I sat in Starbucks, trying to enjoy my Strawberries and Cream Mocha with Frappuccino chips, but instead just feeling really tense. Then I realized-

Tension wasn’t the root of my problems. I was dwelling on the past- or the future. I was living in the past or future tense. And that’s not living at all.

You can be more positive now! You can’t be more positive back then. You can plan to be positive in the future, but what’s all that business about mice and men?

What we all need is to turn that untimely tension into something that’s now– start living in the present tense.

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I type and sit while thinking about the implications of only being alive in the present tense. I am enjoying my Mocha Frappuccino. I am enjoying the air conditioning. I am getting up to drink in the sunshine.

Peace and Progress,

Blush

Tea With Friends: Hot Chocolate Day

It’s time for Tea With Friends!

Today we have a very special guest blogger from Ohio. Meadow is a hot chocolate aficionado, a Welsh speaker, an English teacher, and a jigsaw master. She’s also the founder of Duct Tape Residue, a repository for dreams, love, and understanding your worth. 

Blush and Meadow

1. So, Meadow, tell us about yourself.

There’s so much to tell! I think the most important thing readers should know about me is that I live in Ohio. I moved to Ohio two years ago after a photo of a farm in Ohio spoke to my soul. I realized that the life I was living could never measure up to the life that was waiting for me in Ohio.

2. Wowowow! So interesting! Now tell us- how do *you* manage to get out of bed in the morning?

Well, this is a tough subject for me to write about, but I don’t want to shortchange our readers. I am usually very eager to get out of bed in the morning so that I can make the most of the daylight hours. I have a severe fear of the moon, so it is very difficult for me to function once the sun goes out and the moon can see me. There are a lot of things that I love to do–look at pictures of cute animals, run quarter-marathons, do mind yoga–but my time to do them is restricted if I sleep too far past sunrise. If the moon is visible during daylight hours, my whole day is shot.

3. Do you feel you could be living more like Blush and Bashful?

Of course! Blush and Bashful are such an inspiration to women like you and I. I don’t think I could ever measure up to their standard, but it certainly makes my soul happy when I try!

4. Your stated area of expertise is “having no money. At all. AT ALL.” What tips would you offer women in that situation?

For years, I really felt as though making no money doing something I loved meant I was a failure. I mean, why pursue my dreams when I could just get a terrible job I hated and start eating at least two meals a day again?

But then I realized something really important. Lots of people don’t have money. And lots of people are really happy. Now, my psychologist friends tell me correlation doesn’t mean causation, but I disagree. I’m ready to offer you four tips for living a money-free life.

One. Don’t worry about your physical needs. Your body will take care of itself if you keep it happy.

Two. The number on your paycheck is closer to your rank on the Happiness Spectrum (copyright pending) than you think. Remember, the less money you have, the happier you can be. Just accept your liberation from the golden handcuffs and understand that a lack of money–or more importantly a lack of a job–means the you have more time to do the things you love. Baseball players may make more money than teachers, but do they get their summers off? Of course not!

Three. Don’t automatically accept a raise if your boss offers it. It could be a trap. Think about what really matters in your life. Do you want to be bound to a materialistic existence and forget about the things that really fulfill your soul’s needs?

Four. There are lots of things that look like jobs that you can do while you wait for your dreams to come true. It’s important to not push yourself into the workforce before you are ready. Wait for the job you were meant to do.

5. Thanks, that was really inspiring. Last but not least, what’s your favorite kind of cupcake?

I’m so glad you asked me this question! I am very passionate about cake and tiny things, so cupcakes touch my soul deeply. I would have to say that my absolute favorite kind of cupcake is Red Velvet, and not just because they are delicious! I love what Red Velvet cupcakes represent! You see, red velvet cake is really just regular cake. The only difference is a little bit of red dye. But people pay tons of money to eat red velvet cake instead of just regular old vanilla cake. That’s the kind of thinking to which we should all aspire. Just be yourself, but with some extra oomph. People really respect that kind of hutzpah, and you don’t even have to do any extra work!

Coffee and Awesome

All of us struggle with feeling tired. You, me, that girl in the sparkly yoga pants, all of us.

But who really wants to be tired? There’s so much life out there to experience. Exhaustion makes us feel unworthy and small.

I, too, struggled with tiredness.

You know what, cupcake? You’re better than that. You deserve more. You deserve… adrenaline.

This was me in the morning:

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It wasn’t pretty.

So how can we solve this problem plaguing all of us? When what I really want to do is live, how can I get past that critical 9:30am meltdown? After all, you come first.

Allowing yourself to not feel sleepy anymore, to feel a thrill at the sunrise, to revel in the first email of the day is a gift you deserve.

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The solution was easier and harder than you thought….

Coffee.

Yes, coffee will solve those sleepy morning blues. Just look at the results.

Photo on 6-19-13 at 12.17 PM #2

Only a matter of minutes later, I’m ready to give this day a kick in the pants.

You can do it, precious. That coffee shop is minutes away. Remember to put you first.

Unquestioningly,

Blush

Success Is 50% Closer Than You Think

PERFECTIONHave you ever seen a bumper sticker that changed your life?

I have.

This car climbed Mt. Washington.

A few weeks ago, I went on a hiking trip with some of my besties. I was driving up Mt. Washington and, boy, was it a hike. Halfway up, the sun burst through the clouds, and I was privileged to have my breath taken away by one of the most spectacular views I’ve ever seen.

Then I realized: That stolen breath ain’t coming back, and I’m not feeling so good.

My heart couldn’t wait to hop back into the car and scale the rest of Mt. Washington, but my stomach was saying “no way, Josephina.” In that moment I felt like such a failure. Why me? I’ve always been the brave one.

Then I realized- I’d already done more than most people will ever accomplish in a lifetime.

Why is it exactly that optimists are people whose glasses are only half full?

It’s time we stopped beating ourselves up and see the truth: 50% is 50% more than 0%.

(click to tweet that glittery glass of goodness)

People sometimes only make it halfway through that burger. Maybe they only run half a marathon. They only fly halfway around the world. And if they flew 100% of the way… they would end up where they started.

Sometimes? Halfway is exactly where you need to be.

Halfheartedly yours,

Blush

P.S. A special sweet for all of you cuties:

Join the anti-perfectionist sisterhood. Purchase a “This car climbed halfway up Mt. Washington” bumper sticker. (Coming soon!)

5 Reasons Seasons Are Good for You

seasonsThere’s definitely  change in the air. A hot, sultry sweetness that melts through your t-shirts and creeps up the back of your neck. A buzzing in  your ears that ain’t just from the mosquitos. Summer has settled in, and it’s here to stay… or is it?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how things have changed in the last few months. And no, it isn’t  just the weather. All that sweaty stickiness has crawled its way into my heart.

A change in the seasons is the perfect time to make a change in priorities.

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So why should you be taking advantage of the transition to summer summer summertime?

Read on to find out!

Top Five Reasons Why Seasons Are Good For You

1. Wardrobe

Change in the seasons = change in your wardrobe = chance to create a life that’s yours. Sales, sales, sales, guys. Break out those credit cards and embrace this opportunity to make yourself visually stunning- not that you weren’t already, you saucy little cupcake.

2. Choosing Yourself

Find support and walk forward along this crazy path of life. Just because it’s hot out doesn’t mean you’re not still the most smokin’ thing around. Every time there’s a change in the weather, you have an opportunity to change your attitude and put yourself first. I also recommend choosing air conditioning.

3. Coffee

Uh, HELLO? Every change in the weather brings  a sassy new coffee drink to light. Get yourself over to Starbucks and try that iced caramel macchiato. Upside down is best. The more caffeine you ingest, the less tired you’ll feel. Don’t let that hot weather put the best part of you in the corner.

4. Yoga

When it’s hot and sweaty out, you don’t have that excuse to keep you from the gym. Get over there, girl.

5. Authenticity

Seasonal changes remind us that whatever excuses we’re making are just facades. Just as we can’t stop the changes in the weather, we can’t stop ourselves from changing and evolving. Admit that it’s raining. Admit that you don’t want to get off the internet. Show the world your true self.

You can do it. Down that espresso, grab your umbrella, and find some AC.

Believe in the beauty of yourself and your selfless beauty,

Blush